Hi Dean,
Really sorry to hear that you haven't received the support you need and deserve. I'm only a member so not too sure about how all the admin stuff works, but just wanted to say that there are people here to chat to, if you'd like. My wife was diagnosed over two years ago now and underwent chemo, a double mastectomy and radiation. If you'd like to speak to someone who's been through something similar to what you might be facing right now, please just pm me and I'd be more than happy to chat. Wishing you and your partner all the very best.
Trevor