Stopping Chemo

How are you huny??? I had my BC in 2011 and finished chemo and radiotherapy in 2012.

Firstly let me just say what a wonderful daughter you are looking out for your Mum in this way!!! It must be so hard for you to watch what she is going through, but to stop the chemo??? A lady I met during my hospital stay after my operation to remove my tumor had chemo before me. She had a massive Asthma attack during her first chemo and had to stop all together! So you see she had no choice with it from then on, she had to stop but didn't want to. But she had to accept it!!! Yes your Mum is having a very hard time. we all go through similar dramas to some degree with chemo and other cancer treatments. It is only when you talk on this forum that you realise just how common it really is!!! I would liken my journey to your mum's somewhat. I ended up in emergency a couple of times due to infection and blindness issues which I later found out was due to the anti-nausea drug pre-chemo.I also have an autoimmune disease which played havoc with my treatment because I had difficulties with the Prednisone i was taking with it's own side effects and issues. my doctor told me I would be a bigger challenge because of this, and obviously I was! LOL!  I was hospitalised for three days on the extreme bout I had. I had to have a shot with every chemo to boost my white blood cell count too!!! The cycle never seemed to end. PICC line, blood clots, daily Clexane injections, blood tests and constant nausea!!!  It is frustrating for everyone concerned but especially the cancer patient!!! Somedays my family could not bare to be around me due to being so irritable and angry at the world for giving me such a crap existence!!! Also due to the nature of the drugs I was taking. I even told the doctor after my first chemo, at my first oncology appointment 10 days later to shove it you know where!!! It caused a lot of problems for my hubby and myself and we had a massive arguement before I went to the hospital that very day!!! The doctor and my husband was shocked I must say!!! The doctor asked me why? I told her that I was still feeling like crap and that I should be feeling much better and obviously something was very wrong that I wasn't!!! Of course when I was told if I did not have the treatment according to the plan, then the first dose was for nothing!!! I needed to have the series of treatments in specific doses and it was only when I had the last chemo, that I was actually at the full dose that was going to save my life in the long run!!! This is why they break the doses up like in radiotherapy. you could not stand the full treatment in one hit, even though it is hard at any stage of course. You just have to support your mum and give her the understanding she deserves and needs huny:) Having the chemo increased my chance of survival from 75% for 10 years minimun to 85%. So it can benefit your Mum greatly by doing this now.  Tell your Mum to stay strong and focus on the positives and the bigger picture. Your Mum is a very brave lady and will get through this with your help. I am in my third year of remission now so if I can do this so can your mum!!! Take care of yourself and your Mum Shelly and she will win not only the battle but the war!!! XXX MIa. XXX :)