Thank you Hazel! Yes I have my grand parents and mums siblings (Aunty and an uncle) but mum won't listen to any of us it's like she is in denial and doesn't even believe she has cancer now. It's so hard because she doesn't understand what she's doing to herself and I will kick myself if one day she decides she wants the treatment and if it's too late by then :( I am in contact with her doctors and the mental health people so we will hopefully get her back on track soon! Thank you for your post xxx