Shani I really feel for you .It must be so hard to be in this predicament.I feel that the best thing for you to do is seek the help of people that really understand your Mum,and her illness.Does she have a regular doctor that YOU could go to and ask advice?Is she in the right frame of mind that she could attend a BC support group?Most areas have something,and you may not have to travel too far.Also,the cancer council in each state have a phone line that you could call,and trained professionals might have experience with something similar to this and could advise and help,you.Please take care of yourself.Big hugsxxxx Robyn