Men Who Care

Hi again Micky,My mob is 0432956173 give me a txt and we can arrange a time to have a coffee somewhere..Clay

Hi iclay,

It is to late, as I write this the relationship has ened, I am devestated and do not know what to do, she keeps talking about her pain all the time and will not talk to me about my feelings and when I try to she just keeps telling me that this is not about me, I know that it is not me going through what she is, but I need to talk to her too, 16 years ago she had breast cancer, I did not know her then and before she found out about this cancer from the time we met she always complained about the pain from having that lump removed, but with all this pain she is driving her car and shopping, but tells me she can not come and see me because of the pain. If we never get back together I need someone to talk to, because I think it is my fault and I could have done things differant, I am just a mess right now. Micky

PS. I do live in Brisbane

Hi Micky,All I can suggest to you is to be the best you, you can be.And yes she may push you away from time to time but what she is going thru is too hard for words.Just be there for her at all times and if she wants some space let her have it but make sure she knows you are still there.The two of you need to talk more about it and the feelings that you both are having.Communication is the key.She really doesn't want you to go away but these are her fears that she is facing.Her whole world is upside down and all twisted up at the moment,hang in there it's a long road.If you happen to live in Brissie I would be glad to have a coffee sometime so we can chat,but if not we shall just chat on here.Keep me posted on how things are going.You now have a friend to share your thoughts with, Clay

HI Clayton,

So sorry to hear that you lost your wife earlier this year.  You are absolutely right, there is a vaccumm of information around being a carer and hopefully we can make a difference (even if it is for one person).  I agree with you of creating a network of people who can help someone else.  After all sometimes you just need to chat to someone who appreciates first hand what you are going through.  Keep doing what you are doing it will make a difference

Simon

Hi Clayton, thanks so much for joining in, it's great to have you here.  Please jump in anytime and share your experiences with the group, and feel free to pass on the Group's information to anyone you think might be interested.

~Di