Men Who Care

Hello Garry, I've been very touched to read of the openess and clarity with which you express your pain and loss. Yes, the men here have all expressed such wonderful empathy and of themselves. Its great to see the encouragement you have found here. Hang in there, we all greive differently. As I read your story, I also see you recognising that which you are grateful for (regardless of  the disease progression). That is VERY POWERFUL. Also you know your late wife would want the best for you, to live your life and care for your family. Those are the two things that helped me to move forward, to get direction and purpose, when the fog seemed  inpenetratable. Reality is quite often differernt to our perception. Yes it can be a long way through, but through you will go. These little rememberences, that you have been blessed with will guide you. I recall something someone said; about the earliest ships with only compass and stars for navigation, that when they went into fog they would hold their bearing, and eventually come out on course. Keep your bearings you hvae mentioned, You will come through. I do recommend speaking with a counsellor, cancer council or palliative care dial up, if you can't get to one. Keep expressing yourself, very healthy. I found much care and empathy amongst church family, counsellors, family and friends.  I was often surprised by  who gave words of soothing love and encouragement, hang with them, maybe your fish :) hope will lift you up as you grieve and rest.