I would like to connect with other carers....

Hi there @Bridget1, I was diagnosed with stage 3 grade 3 triple positive breast cancer in 2016, aged 58. I have other medical conditions, and the cancer was in fact found by chance on a chest CT for another complaint. During the shitfest that was AC chemo, I spent a total of 57 days and nights in hospital. I had febrile neutropaenia after each dose, even with the Neulasta injections. I also had two blood transfusions which I referred to as tea with Count Dracula because of severe anaemia. I also had acute pancreatitis as a side effect from the neulasta. I tell you all this, not for a big boo hoo for me but to give you and your partner hope. The pathology on my removed breasts and axilliary nodes removed showed no, repeat no, active cancer left at all, just the dead tumour beds where it had been. (I had chemo before surgery). Aside from other side effects during the 12 cycles of Paclitaxo and Herceptin for a yearl, chemo was completed without further hospital admissions. Three years later, although on Letrozole, my active treatment is finished, and I am officially NAD...no evidence of disease. I shared a quote before which was by an oncologist who made the following observation. He said that chemo was like using a flame thrower on your garden to get rid of the weeds. It does an excellent job on the weeds, but buggers up all the other vegetation at the same time. I agree. My personal analogy was that it's like carpet bombing a terrorist village. You get rid of the baddies, but unfortunately civilians are also killed. That's war for you, and believe me cancer is war on us. If we don't kill it, it will kill us.