husband not coping with my physical appearance since failed reconstruction

thanks everyone
I just needed to vent, things much better - had good "roll in the hay" last night and for first time hubbie actually touched the failed recon side so i think a big step for him.also had a chat w him regarding fact that will not have any surgery for next year which he agrees with and is more accepting of fact am lopsided for at least 12 months...
really good to know all that support out there - i have good group of girlfriends but they all also a bit burnt out and only 1 has had breast ca and she has no partner...