@dodg113 If there's one thing I have learnt from this, it's that it's important to consider yourself first, physically and emotionally. I'm not very good at it and I know that there's more I should do if I could. As much as you love your husband, this is not about him. You have a right to be respected as a person who has gone through a massive trauma. Okay, he has too but only at a remove, and whether he his suffering because he can't "fix it" is irrelevant to how he addresses you. This is not to disparage him (which I would have done when I first replied) - I hope that he is able to get some help to deal with his emotions. None of us are 20 and unbelievably gorgeous anymore and many of us carry significant scars. As we age, these will become more prevalent for both parties in a relationship. That is life. We all deserve for our partner to appreciate us for who we are, not what we look like. I do hope that you can work it out and that you take care of yourself.
