thank you everyone.It has been good getting "outsiders" viewpoint as agree I am prob being too generous to him - but at same time really not fair what he said ..and is def not a perfect specimen - also bit fatter now than 26 yrs ago!!
@Zoffiel - thank you ,what did you end up doing after failed recon - ? think we all had really high hopes that if this recon worked then this year could put BC behind us in a way - but now thought of needing more surgery is too daunting - am not going to do anything for a year as my daughter starts yr 12 - too hard on all of us....
