@dodg113 I've got a failed reconstruction too. It is really challenging. After a recurrence in 2016, I've stacked an extra 10 kg on an already 'generous' frame, so I get that as well.
I was single when I had my first episode and I can tell you that dating was a pretty daunting experience. Despite being told that things were not pretty in the tit department, I still had a couple of rejections when the gentlemen concerned got their first eyeful of the mess. Thankfully I persisted and now have the sort of partner I wish I'd had years ago.
My response to male queazinesss? 'I'd prefer you concentrated on what is going on between my ears rather than what is happening under my shirt.'
Because that's what I want. I won't accept anything else. I might add that with one notable exception the failed suitors where not exactly perfect physical specimens either. Everyone--male, female, young, old, beautiful or not -- is one fraction of a second away from a life changing disfigurement or loss of function. Something men need to consider since so many of them find their dicks stop working properly in later life :)
We can't get our old lives back and it's pointlessly cruel to suggest we have failed because of that. No-one choses this shit. Ultimately, it's up to him to decide what he can, or can't, tolerate; we all know the feeling of pointlessly thrashing around in a state of denial. Those of robust character get over it, let's hope he's one of the good ones. Even though a few of us would probable give him a swift kick up the bum at the moment. MXX
