I feel for you and your husband both. It is easy to just say ‘well, I am the one whose life has been turned upside down and my body mutilated ‘ but you are being very understanding by wanting to find support for him. Men - In my experience - feel very much the need to ‘fix’ things and they struggle so much with the fact that this can’t be fixed. It’s out of their hands and when they feel helpless they can get angry or just irrational maybe. They need to lay blame on something concrete.
My husband has had support by friends but he hasn’t tended to talk about how he feels. I think gradually over the year he has just come to terms with it all - I have had both breasts off, gained a few kilos on chemo, and generally became a tireder, slower version of myself. He realises he might not have me for the long haul so he has to just appreciate me now however I come 😊 I hope you can find some incidental support if your husband isn’t one for counselling. Mine isn’t either. Take care.
