How to get a clearer picture?

Thanks you so much everyone I really appreciate it. I'm doing my best to support how ever she wants to find bet way through this which is why I've felt iffy about speaking to her doctors. I'm afraid of asking them questions in front of her that she's not ready for the answer to yet. I am someone who functions best with lots of information and facts and I'm trying to remember that not everyone is like me, I don't want to tread on her toes. She had an appointment with a nurse who was very cold and matter of fact with her and she came out of the appointment feeling like she had no hope so I want to avoid making her feel worse.