I witheld information from my children and siblings whilst I got more information. Unfortunately with cancer we have lots of frightening times waiting on results and that is difficult to cope with. What I felt in myself was I didn't have the mental energy to support my family to cope with their worries and fears also. I also wanted to protect them until I had an actual plan and could share this. We are all different and your Mum is probably feeling guilty that you left your job and stayed and helped . ..as much as she loved it. That's what most Mums are like...hate to be a burden on their kids. Keep in touch. Think about the future and how best you can support them. It is difficult living elsewhere and there might be times ahead when they really will need you there for some time. They will probably never ask, it will be just your gut feeling that you need to. Take care. Kath
