Hi@hubby2021
its great that you have found your way on here - a health scare like this is very confronting my it’s really helpful to have a supportive partner .I took my husband to all my early medical appointments as suggested by my GP as another set of “ ears”.
The standard tests are mammogram ( where they put your breast on a metal plate and squeeze another metal plate on it and take an image ), ultrasound ( where they put gel on the breast and run a sort of a wand over it while a moving image is taken then static images) , biopsy ( where they take a sample of tissue from inside the breast with a needle ( can be a big or small one) , MRI ( where you lay face down and go inside a machine which makes a big noise).All with the naked breasts exposed.
There is also a physical exam.
I am 64 ( 62 when diagnosed) but have always been very self conscious about exposing my bodily parts - I went to a girls school and didn’t have brothers so that probably compounded it ).
I remember when I had my mastectomy and my male breast cancer surgeon was marking me up with texta I actually closed my eyes and imagined I was somewhere else.
Most of the nurses and technical staff who did my mammogram, ultrasound and MRI were female , my breast cancer surgeon ( who is amazing) and other Doctors ( like the anaesthetist) were male.
They are professionals and our bodies are just something to treat medically for them , I know that doesn’t really help but like so much about breast cancer ( or the testing to investigate it) there are things that will make us anxious and upset.
I think that it is worth explaining your wife’s issues to the staff involved and they may be able to accommodate your wishes.
Good luck and fingers crossed it is benign and not cancer 🌺
