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simon66
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9 years ago

Alcohol

Hi everyone.

I'm just after some advice.

My wife was diagnosed with stage 3 BC early last year. She had surgery, chemo and radiotherapy. It was a tumultuous year for the whole family. She is now on the aromatase inhibitor drugs, which have their own unique side affects.

Since then, life has returned to normal and she is back at work. However, the uptake of alcohol has gone through the roof. White wine and champagne seem to be the favourites. I have been told that two standard drinks per week is the limit, to avoid increasing the chance of a recurrence. I would estimate that 10 times that amount gets consumed in a week, possibly more. I realise this is a form of 'self medication', but the possible harm being done is causing the rest of the family great concern.

I've tried discussing the issue, but the conversation gets shut down fairly quickly. Where to from here? Does anyone know of a good councillor in the Perth area, who specialises in this area? Something needs to change, otherwise I feel all the hard work last year, will be for nothing. 

Thanks in advance.

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  • rowdy's avatar
    rowdy
    Member
    9 years ago

    Hi Christine you are a true survivour, your daughter is so lucky to have you  We never know how our lives can change so quickly. My husband was there every test and doc appointment, he really surprised me.

     I hope things improve for your daughter 

     

     

     

     

  • Bon_Bon's avatar
    Bon_Bon
    Member
    9 years ago
    WHATTTT??? you have to stop drinking? but who will free all that wine trapped in bottles? This is getting more sucky by the minute
  • Hannah_BCNA's avatar
    Hannah_BCNA
    Member
    9 years ago
    Hi Simon, 

    Thanks for sharing your story. I could relate completely - my Mum had cancer, twice (Hodgkins lymphoma and then skin cancer) and she never seemed to share anything about her treatment with us. I actually didn't know she had skin cancer until she was away from work...in hospital! What she did make evident was her drinking. I knew she was going through a stressful time, so I let it slide for a little bit, but it all came to a head one day. I actually sought counselling after an argument with her. What worked for me was going to see a psychologist who gave me some techniques to cope with her and to encourage her to seek help. Maybe you can try to go initially, using the links supplied by Jess above. In my situation, telling her to 'get help' was only met with hostility before then. 

    It does get better too - she has now stopped drinking completely and is leading a much healthier life. I'm really glad I took that step and I encourage you to do the same. All the best. 

    EDIT: Totally didn't see the "May 2016" bit...where has time gone? Friday brain~ Anyway, I hope my experience is useful still Simon and your wife is leading a healthier life :)