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Janey235
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13 years ago

Update on emotional mess

Hi everyone. Well your positive vibes and finger crossing has paid off. My son saw my surgeon this afternoon and he is absolutely fine. Michael, my surgeon had a look at Mat's ultrasound scans and pronounced them all clear. He said that most likely Mat had swollen Montgomery glands around the areola. He said it apparently happens a lot in Marathon runners as their shirts chafe against their nipples. Well Mat's no marathon runner but he has been doing a lot of rock climbing lately so it may have been that as well as the fact that he sleeps on his stomach a lot. What a huge relieve. The well broke for me whilst we were in the consulting room and I burst into tears. Anyway Michael is quite satisfied that no further tests are required. When Mat asked whether he should keep an eye on them, Michael jokingly said "well if you want to keep looking at your nipples, that's your business". We all had a good laugh then. So I can now breath again! Now as for my appointment with Angela Webb the Plastic surgeon, it all went well. I liked her and felt we connected. I told her that I had decided on a double mastectomy with immediate reconstruction and she set about putting me on 'the list' for 10th September (this all has to be confirmed of course). She told me that the surgery couldn't be done at Peter Mac as it needed a full team on board and PM wasn't equipped for such a big and lengthy surgery (sounds really scary) so it will have to be done at St Vincent's instead where both she and Michael Henderson perform breast surgery as well. She wanted me to book in to see Michael again as I hadn't told him of my decision about the double but while I was in with Mat in the afternoon, Michael said that Angela had already told him of my choice. Michael made an appointment for next week and said this would be a comprehensive chat about everything involved (Pros and Cons). He's set aside at least 45 minutes and he insists I have a second opinion from one of his colleagues before my final decision along with counseling for both myself and my husband Ian. He wants me to make an informed decision not based on emotions alone. My emotions have been on the big dipper lately so I know these discussions will be a good thing to do and I have such confidence in him. The next hurdle begins. A huge thank you to all my Pink Sisters for wishing Mat well and for your support through another challenging time. We all have plenty of those. Hugs and kisses, Janey xxxxxxxx

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  • Yes I feel soooooo relieved that Mat doesn't have to go through any of this. My surgeon has been wonderful. He was the one that had to break the news of BC to us in the first place and right from that moment I knew I wanted him to look after me. He is a straight forward, no beating about the bush type of person but very compassionate and genuinely caring about all his patients. Deanne I hope you are coping with your treatment and that when you have to make decisions it will be smooth sailing for you. The encouragement and support from women like you and the other pink ladies on this site have been a tremendous help to me and I am really happy I can give some back. Lots of love, Janey xxx
  • I hope this year Christmas will be a happier one for all of us. I know that the surgery will not be easy and it will take time to recover but I feel that I am over the worst of this journey now that chemo has finished and can only get better from here. Hope you are still well and happy. Strength, love and hugs back to you, Jane xxx
  • Fantastic news that your rock climbing son is fit and well.  What  a big decision on your part of the story and I wish you well again for the next phase of what youre going through.  I wasnt given a choice this time around with my BC, but had always thought to myself, if I ever get breast cancer Id have both removed.  I just had a lumpectomy and 2 auxillary operations.    My Mum only had one of hers removed and no reconstruction, so she has had the drama of stuffing one side of her bra, with a latex type  fake one for the last 25 years.  My how options have changed.  We both have size F boobs and I have always found them such a hassle.  I guess its probably nothing to do with what your going through, but  just my own story, woops.  Good luck lovely! X Bel

  • What wonderful news, and what a relief for you all.  So happy for you.  Now it's roll on 10th September - and no looking back.  Hopefully by Christmas you will feel re-born with all of this year behind you.  Sending you strength, love and hugs, Michelle x