Hi Jenny,Good luck with your operation tomorrow. All will be fine trust that you will get through it and you will...Re your kids. The first time i was diagnosed my boys were 6 & 3. They were very young but we did not lie to them and told that so that they would understand, the truth about what was happening. I had a TRAM flap so had 6wks of recovery which made me very limited in picking up or playing. I think the best was is to be honest about what is happening. Do not hide it or dumb it down as they know and they can also sometimes overhear you about what is happening and wonder why you aren't telling them the truth. Good uck and take care x