Hi @Diannes48, it's great that there's starting to be more information and education out there on reconstruction, it was hard to come by when I had mine back in 2014, which is why the Choosing Breast Reconstruction group was so helpful to me. Just checking that you've also had a look at the Reclaim Your Curves website and resource materials? The materials were written for consumers by women who had been through reconstruction (with oversight by surgeons to ensure accuracy) and covers a lot of what many women want to know as they make their decisions around reconstruction.
Totally agree about the opinions and judgements thing, it is a very personal choice to reconstruct your breasts and can be a long and challenging process, so definitely not a "free boob job" or "vanity".
Also, one of the things that comes up often in the reconstruction groups is the questions around what's covered by medicare and private health insurance and what you need to consider with both.
Good luck with the project. Jane xx