Hi @Diannes48 - I am So sorry to hear of your family loss and recurrence! :(
Great topic - lots of info all on the one thread.
I have a half a dozen friends who've had mastectomies & some have & some haven't had reconstruction.
Most of my buddies have chosen NOT to have reconstruction - for a variety of reasons. One has had her prosthetic replaced when it ruptured when she had a followup Mammogram - the pressure of the machine being too much for it. Most have NOT had it, mainly due to the additional surgery & risks involved & the added costs. Some have been disatisfied with the shape, feel & look of the fake boobs ..... and there is evidence of some inserts that actually become cancerous recently (none of my buddies, luckily - at this point in time!)
I guess it all breaks down to your age, your own image of yourself & feel 'as a woman'?
If I had had to have a mastectomy, personally, I don't think I would go for a reconstruction - but it is a very personal & private decision to make - I am also 65 and have never been a 'girly girl'. Not sure if that makes any difference?
Looking forward to reading more comments.