First of all you have worked with a surgeon, not married him! You can and should get a second opinion if you need it. Your surgeon may sound high handed but people do change their mind or, as in my case, hadn't given much thought to reconstruction. I was not keen on the idea but with 10 days between a funny feeling in my left breast and a mastectomy. I really hadn't thought about it much at all. Five years on I am quite sure I don't want one and the "bagginess" - my surgeon's word not mine! - he left me with to make an easier reconstruction if and when, leaves me with a hint of a cleavage so it's fine. If it's a seroma it may disperse by itself but I would see a good lymphoedema therapist as massage may help it disperse too. I am sure you can get the unwanted tissue removed if that's the only option. It takes a bit of time to adjust to all the ins and outs, but you are not bound to put up with something you can't stand. Whatever well intentioned nurses say! Best wishes.
