Hi Lou,
Big decision to make, but I am happy that I went ahead and had my recon. I was diagnosed with an invasive lobular carcinoma in June 2011. I ended up having to have a mastectomy after my lumpectomy showed no clear margins. So after 18 months of wearing a prosthesis I am so happy I had the op. The recovery is long and the first week I actually questioned myself for putting my body through such a huge surgery but now I am certainly not regretting it.
My girlfriend had a bilateral mastectomy with immediate recon and also does not regret it. She too had tram flap recon. Both our surgeries were in Sydney but with different surgeons. I am more than happy to ask her to contact you if you have any questions.
Wishing you all the very best.
Sue x