You do you @"Sandy B" and never mind anyone else. Go for a long walk, and sit in nature for a bit. Let the thoughts flow, gently search your body, your mind, your gut, for what you feel, for what is right for you. Test drive the decisions. Make it one way and see what your reaction is, and then the other.
This is
your body,
your life. You are quite likely to have another 20 years at least in front of you. And even if it's two, so what? We all get to feel good about our bodies when we want to, why should you be any different?
I knew I didn't want to be flat so I had a DIEP reconstruction. I have no regrets. It's good to have warm mounds of my own tissue on my chest.
Have you used the BRECONDA online tool?
https://breconda.bcna.org.au/There is no right or wrong. You do YOU. K xox