Not that nice
The comments and thoughts have been very much appreciated but I'm just not that nice.
I have to be honest and say that there is a distinct difference between what I deliver into our situation against what I suspect strongly is required.
I think I'm talking about Sympathy vs Empathy here, I'm not very good at the latter, not sure whether that is part of my psyche or just learnt behaviour in life.Or maybe just being too focussed on solving the problem not understanding the issue.
I'd have to admit to even trying to gain insight into how to address our situation by leverging the same problem management approach I use every day at work, break it down into bite size pieces and deal with them one at a time. Of course you don't need me to tell you the results of that approach.
When I ask myself what am I doing on this website the answer is to get insight into the problem. So you can see I'm still seeing it as a solvable problem if only I can find the key.