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FLClover
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Hello to everyone and Happy Easter π£ππͺΊ.Β
Iβve been a bit quiet on here, just focusing on life after breast cancer I guess, going back to work, trying to get healthier etc.Β
Today Iβm posting again because itβs my 4th cancersary π, and Iβm also 2 weeks post my third surgery since this whole ride started. This was the surgery I was most excited about though, because it was my recon surgery, i.e. bilateral exchange of expanders to implants (Iβll be posting a picture story soon in the private recon group for those interested). I had my expanders in for a record time, just shy of 4 years π€¦π»ββοΈπ (surgery kept being postponed for various reasons) so I might be able to enter the Guinness Book of Records π . The thing is, Iβm absolutely terrified of surgery and pretty traumatised too, due to what happened after my DMX. It took a change of surgical teams 4 years ago and lots of counselling to be able to get to this state of being ready for it again. Thanks to all my hard work and my BRILLIANT specialist team, I got there, and I canβt even express how happy I am with the results π. My breasts now look like my original ones, albeit perkier ππ. They were an absolute mess from the 4 years of expanders, but my surgeon fixed my pockets perfectly and used implants that look very natural. The whole experience, despite stress from my previous trauma, was very easy and smooth sailing. I am beyond thankful and grateful to my team (Dr Eva Nagy β₯οΈ and Fred π) because without them this wouldnβt have been possible ππ»ππ»π. It might seem like something so simple, but it is so important to healing as anyone going through this (all of you) will know and understand, because it means getting my body back to what it was (or to a new normal for those not choosing recon). Actually, better than what it was because I was going to the gym for a year prior, to prepare myself physically for this, and so I am stronger than Iβve been in a long time. Silver linings everywhere π.Β
Today Iβm posting again because itβs my 4th cancersary π, and Iβm also 2 weeks post my third surgery since this whole ride started. This was the surgery I was most excited about though, because it was my recon surgery, i.e. bilateral exchange of expanders to implants (Iβll be posting a picture story soon in the private recon group for those interested). I had my expanders in for a record time, just shy of 4 years π€¦π»ββοΈπ (surgery kept being postponed for various reasons) so I might be able to enter the Guinness Book of Records π . The thing is, Iβm absolutely terrified of surgery and pretty traumatised too, due to what happened after my DMX. It took a change of surgical teams 4 years ago and lots of counselling to be able to get to this state of being ready for it again. Thanks to all my hard work and my BRILLIANT specialist team, I got there, and I canβt even express how happy I am with the results π. My breasts now look like my original ones, albeit perkier ππ. They were an absolute mess from the 4 years of expanders, but my surgeon fixed my pockets perfectly and used implants that look very natural. The whole experience, despite stress from my previous trauma, was very easy and smooth sailing. I am beyond thankful and grateful to my team (Dr Eva Nagy β₯οΈ and Fred π) because without them this wouldnβt have been possible ππ»ππ»π. It might seem like something so simple, but it is so important to healing as anyone going through this (all of you) will know and understand, because it means getting my body back to what it was (or to a new normal for those not choosing recon). Actually, better than what it was because I was going to the gym for a year prior, to prepare myself physically for this, and so I am stronger than Iβve been in a long time. Silver linings everywhere π.Β
So now, every year on this day, I do something special for myself, as a thank you to ME for everything Iβve endured. One thing this cancer taught me is that I need to prioritise myself, because I was putting myself last before all this. Well, not anymore. Itβs a work in progress for sure, but Iβm now putting myself at the top of my list more and more often.Β
My message, especially to all the newbies, is that it does get better. It gets a whole lot better. There will be a day and time when you wonβt be thinking about cancer all day, every day - believe me! There will even be a day when youβll forget you ever had it. You do get reminded again because itβs a bit of a βgift that keeps givingβ situation, but you find the strength again and keep moving on. It might not always seem like it and I definitely encourage venting and getting all the anger out, and asking for help when ever you need it!! However, there are lots of beautiful days as well βΊοΈ.Β
One more piece of advice: choose your medical team very carefully, because they will either break you or make you (speaking from experience). You are responsible for your life and wellbeing, but with the right medical team, you will have the support you need to do wonders. So, donβt rush this decision. Do research before choosing, and always seek a second or even third opinion if it doesnβt feel right.Β
*Pictured are myself, the day after my surgery so please donβt judge me for looking so terrible, and my beautiful magician of a surgeon on the right πΈ.Β
Lots of love and fantastic health to all π§Ώπͺ·β₯οΈ,
M Xxx
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Congratulations. Itβs always good to hear from people who are happy and positive after cancer. And itβs a good photograph, a perfect partnership.Β3
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Congratulations. Wonderful you are doing so well. Best wishes to you β€οΈΒ1
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That's fantastic news, @FLClover and thank you for the update .... SO good to know that you are so happy with the surgery - and what a gorgeous pic of you & your surgeon xx.Β Β
Is she on the Central Coast or Sydney?
I am now 6 years since the end of active treatment - and weaning myself off the AIs!Β Β
What special thing did you do on your anniversary day to 'treat yourself'?
take care & all the best xx
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@FLClover
Woo hoo!Β
It's been 4 years already!Β That's a very long time for an expander but you're out the other side, looking relieved and glad for the outcome!
You will certainly inspire others to realize that as hard as it is some days there's an outcome that puts all that angst behind!
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Fantastic news @FLClover, so pleased it is all done and you are happy with the outcome.Β Not a bad photo at all given you were in hospital.Β I do like the centre line drawing - wish my surgeon had made some marks as he was a lousy freehand tailor !Β πΒ Rest and relax and let your beautiful beach do its magic, too.Β Hugs to you, my friend, and to your delightful daughter.Β ππΒ Be in touch.1
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Youβre very welcome @jennyss π€. I know when I first joined this forum, I was desperately looking for posts like this, so Iβm happy to share π.ΒYour news is also fantastic as 7 years is a long time! ππ»ππ»π. And 7 is a lucky number βΊοΈ. Be sure to treat yourself, you deserve it β₯οΈπΈ.Β2
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Thank you @arpie π€. Iβm elated with my results! Theyβre way better than I ever thought possible π. My surgeon is in the new Health Hub as part of NSP, Sydney. She was also at Gosford for a while which was convenient for me, but now only in Sydney, although Iβd travel across the country to see her cos sheβs that good ππ»π.ΒWoohoo for you too for 6 years! ππ»ππ». We really need to celebrate the positives π.ΒAnd I too have weaned myself off the AIs. I had to, due to high blood pressure and other nasty side effects. It wasnβt an easy decision at all. Β Iβll be seeing an integrative oncologist to see if she can suggest anything else, but I doubt Iβll go back on the ones Iβve already tried. I am making massive lifestyle changes though π€π€.ΒI took my girl and myself out for dinner, and Iβll buy myself something once Iβm back at work π₯°β₯οΈπ.Β2
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Thank you @iserbrown! πΈ.ΒI wouldnβt recommend 4 years with expanders to anyone π, so I am beyond relieved and happy that theyβre finally out and the implants in πβΊοΈ.ΒYou ladies gave me a lot of hope a few years ago, so Iβm paying it forward to the newbies π. We need as much encouragement as possible in these βjourneysβ of ours. And thereβs definitely very favourable outcomes possible, we just need to believe and persevere β₯οΈ.ΒI hope youβre doing really well π₯°π₯°.Β3
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Thank you @June1952! πΉ.ΒYou have an eye for detail like me, since you noticed my line running down ππ. That line does not wash off easily either! π . But let me say, I am so happy I had my surgeon and not yours π¬π€.ΒI am definitely relaxing, and will be going for some beach therapy as soon as I can drive again βοΈπ.ΒBig hugs to you too from both me and E π€β₯οΈπ.Β2
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Hi @Julez1958! Thank you! π€
Yes, I hadnβt logged on in a bit. Life outside breast cancer got a bit busy I guess. I still get tired more easily from all the treatments etc, but so happy to have this hurdle over and done with ππ»π.ΒHope youβre doing well! πΈ
M Xx1