Wow, I am gobsmacked reading all these bits and pieces. I thought my friends of 15 years, my godmother (mum passed away when I was 19), my brothers & relies (whom all accepted my help when needed), my closest cousin not to say my closest childhood friend were the only horrid people in the world. Wrong, aren't I!!!!!! Sorry, being a bit sadistic there but it is true!!!!!! Why is it so???? The one advantage to losing these people from my life is that I have a fairly new group of friends who I now call my 'family' that love me and my family and whom we just adore and are always there for me even before I think they shouldve even realised that I needed their help-amazing they are!!!!!! And they range from the age of 2 to 55yrs! Oh, I have one family of friends from years ago that have hung on but that's about it.
I understand that this horrid gremlin may scare people, but get over it, take a close look at us, we aren't contagious, we are doing well, we just want life to be normal!!!!!! I knew of a girl whom I had only had contact with thru my kids school that got BC before me, yes, I did stuff up with what I said the first time but we became great friends, all my treatment, ops etc were 6 mths behind hers, even my diagnosis. Sadly she passed away a few years ago, happily I went to see her the day before she did. She said to me 'it's bloody good to see you'. You have no idea what it meant to her and me to make that little effort to go and see her. I always think I should keep making the effort with these 'other' people but I have just decided to luv and appreciate my dear friends now and not waste any more time.
Oh......I did forget to mention that I have the bestest dad alive!!!! I don't burden him with much but he's always there for a chat, a ride to treatment or a great time. And........as I am adopted I have recently found a new brother and sister, they accept it without a problem. So I lost..........but boy I think I gained more and we have to look at all the good stuff don't we????
Sad........but great reading, got a lot out of that!!!!