The Secret Suckiness Of Life After Breast Cancer
https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2017/10/176194/life-after-breast-cancer-survivor-story?
Forum Discussion
It sort of 'cycles' doesn't it @Sister - sometimes you're good, sometime you're bad & other times, you just don't care.
Looking at the clutter in this house I could start selling stuff on Face book or Ebay lol. Probably take years to get rid of it all.
Me too, @Brenda - it is just in the 'too hard' basket. We can NEVER leave this house!
Oh I thought you beat it?
Yes @Dawnc - they think there is a switch 'I'm fixed' - but it doesn't work that way, does it? I am so sorry to hear your marriage didn't survive the trauma - that is really sad.
Where abouts are you (roughly?) Town or City? You can add it to your profile, then folk know where you are & might be able to arrange a meet up & coffee & chat. There is the big Melbourne gathering later this year .....
Yes, family can be a real let-down. That is terrible that your stepdaughters haven't maintained contact, knowing that you've been ill .... but - having said that, I've had issues with my own stepsister with over 55 years of supposedly being 'family' - but when it came down to the nitty gritty, it was always just about money. I chose not to include her in my support group as I knew it wouldn't be 'genuine', just as she didn't choose me to be in her own support group when her husband was diagnosed with prostate - so at least we were on the same page, acknowledging a very fractured relationship. I wouldn't even call it a relationship now - she is basically no longer in my life. I just can't be bothered with all the drama that goes with her.
@"Summer Prevails" - Yep - it just takes time - you will come out the other end and find a happy place. Have you considered tattooing for your eye brows? They really do define your face ....
@Kattykit Yep, I feel like an 80 year old too, trying to get out of a chair ..... moaning & groaning & grabbing for the arms of the chair for support .... but when I get on the water in my kayak & with my fishing gear - I am FREE!! Floating around & happy.
@kmakm In the time frame of things - given what we've all been thru (obviously some more worse than others) & we all know that it is the fucking medication that is causing most of our current problems ...... it IS just a matter of time until we can put these things behind us. I've seen friend's mothers who've been thru all this at 'our age' & are in their 80-90s+ now - and they have had a wonderful life, Post BC - and I bet they didn't have support groups like this available to them back in the 70s. It will be our turn soon xx Most of us are over 1 year 'down' the track now now ..... hopefully not too much longer to go xx
Looking at the clutter in this house I could start selling stuff on Face book or Ebay lol. Probably take years to get rid of it all.
Me too, @Brenda - it is just in the 'too hard' basket. We can NEVER leave this house!
Oh I thought you beat it?
Yes @Dawnc - they think there is a switch 'I'm fixed' - but it doesn't work that way, does it? I am so sorry to hear your marriage didn't survive the trauma - that is really sad.
Where abouts are you (roughly?) Town or City? You can add it to your profile, then folk know where you are & might be able to arrange a meet up & coffee & chat. There is the big Melbourne gathering later this year .....
Yes, family can be a real let-down. That is terrible that your stepdaughters haven't maintained contact, knowing that you've been ill .... but - having said that, I've had issues with my own stepsister with over 55 years of supposedly being 'family' - but when it came down to the nitty gritty, it was always just about money. I chose not to include her in my support group as I knew it wouldn't be 'genuine', just as she didn't choose me to be in her own support group when her husband was diagnosed with prostate - so at least we were on the same page, acknowledging a very fractured relationship. I wouldn't even call it a relationship now - she is basically no longer in my life. I just can't be bothered with all the drama that goes with her.
An epic slow formation of a new version of you. But that’s okay because look how beautiful a galaxy is. It’s worth the wait.
@"Summer Prevails" - Yep - it just takes time - you will come out the other end and find a happy place. Have you considered tattooing for your eye brows? They really do define your face ....
@Kattykit Yep, I feel like an 80 year old too, trying to get out of a chair ..... moaning & groaning & grabbing for the arms of the chair for support .... but when I get on the water in my kayak & with my fishing gear - I am FREE!! Floating around & happy.
@kmakm In the time frame of things - given what we've all been thru (obviously some more worse than others) & we all know that it is the fucking medication that is causing most of our current problems ...... it IS just a matter of time until we can put these things behind us. I've seen friend's mothers who've been thru all this at 'our age' & are in their 80-90s+ now - and they have had a wonderful life, Post BC - and I bet they didn't have support groups like this available to them back in the 70s. It will be our turn soon xx Most of us are over 1 year 'down' the track now now ..... hopefully not too much longer to go xx