Hi @Natjess, first of all I hope you are ok. Good surgery is done and while chemo can be challenging I am sure you will get through it. Just follow all the advice your medical team give you.
Regarding friends and family i totally get it. I had a mixed reaction too. Some family didn't even touch base to see how I was. Amazing!
I think we all have our own values when it comes to what family and friends actually mean. When others don't act in a way we would it seems to come as a surprise and we can get hurt.
I have found some people are frightened of health issues. Maybe they find it depressing or threatening or just confronting. Some say really bizarre things, maybe they just don't know what to say.
Some friends and family will be there for you and some will not. My world is smaller after breast cancer and I keep those who are there for me close and let go of those that weren't good for me.
I would say to focus on the people who really care and are there for you. They are the ones who matter. Let the others stay where they are in the background. At least you know who you value most in your life and can rely on to support you during your treatment.
Best wishes to you and hope your treatment is kind to you.