I feel like Im in a catch 22 situation...
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Hi @deanneze,
I feel for you lovely.
One of the things that we really don't expect is the aftermath. We (well, I did anyway) go into it thinking "I've just got to make it through this treatment then I'll be able to get back to normal. Hmmmm...not quite.
The libido, or lack thereof, sex and general intimacy issues are not spoken about.
As far as the medico's go that's way down on the list when it comes to treating cancer. You pretty much have to sort that out yourself.
Any information available is as good as the pages of cosmo on how to spice up your love life. Phooey. Totally usueless. There is a good article on the LTAV discussion about sex after cancer that may be helpful.
That dull, numb and somewhat removed feeling is unexpected to say the least and depressing as heck. Even if you do get a simmer of an urge to doonah dance it' hardly worth the effort because not much works like it used to.
It's a bloody great shock to your system being slam dunked ungraceflully into menopause and that's apart from the baggage of a cancer diagnosis that goes into the mix to mess with your head.
I am on a similar timeline with my active treatment ending in mid 2017. I opted out of any other body parts being removed and have been on (and sometimes off...naughty) Tamoxifen 2.5yrs..
We all go in search of the holy grail looking for some sort of pill, supplement, magic lube etc to help. Over the last couple of years I think I have tried just about everything possilbe. Hundreds of dollars worth of supplements, accupuncture, pills, lotions and potions etc etc etc.
Anyhoo, that being said amongst the mountain of things that don't appear to do anything but give you expensive pee, I've found a few things that seem to work for me.
.Based on incredibly scientific evidence such as I feel better when I take them and worse when I don't LOL
The swisse Memory and focus suplements, plus added Berocca started to clear the fog and did actually improve my short term memory wihtin a couple of weeks.
Joint pain. The only thing I've found, apart from codeine (which appears to be harder than crack to get these days) is the Blackmores joint formula advanced. Expensive unless it's on sale though. It won't get rid of it but does give it a good knock.
The libido and sex is a harder one and probably deserves a seperate post in the private group. I will say my brain was the one being a lot of the problem. I have been able to make improvements, it's not what it was but definitely improved.
I found taking more notice of the small moments of good than looking at the big picture made a huge difference. Those little moment start to add up the more you seek them out.
All the best sweet. xoxoxoxoxo
I feel for you lovely.
One of the things that we really don't expect is the aftermath. We (well, I did anyway) go into it thinking "I've just got to make it through this treatment then I'll be able to get back to normal. Hmmmm...not quite.
The libido, or lack thereof, sex and general intimacy issues are not spoken about.
As far as the medico's go that's way down on the list when it comes to treating cancer. You pretty much have to sort that out yourself.
Any information available is as good as the pages of cosmo on how to spice up your love life. Phooey. Totally usueless. There is a good article on the LTAV discussion about sex after cancer that may be helpful.
That dull, numb and somewhat removed feeling is unexpected to say the least and depressing as heck. Even if you do get a simmer of an urge to doonah dance it' hardly worth the effort because not much works like it used to.
It's a bloody great shock to your system being slam dunked ungraceflully into menopause and that's apart from the baggage of a cancer diagnosis that goes into the mix to mess with your head.
I am on a similar timeline with my active treatment ending in mid 2017. I opted out of any other body parts being removed and have been on (and sometimes off...naughty) Tamoxifen 2.5yrs..
We all go in search of the holy grail looking for some sort of pill, supplement, magic lube etc to help. Over the last couple of years I think I have tried just about everything possilbe. Hundreds of dollars worth of supplements, accupuncture, pills, lotions and potions etc etc etc.
Anyhoo, that being said amongst the mountain of things that don't appear to do anything but give you expensive pee, I've found a few things that seem to work for me.
.Based on incredibly scientific evidence such as I feel better when I take them and worse when I don't LOL
The swisse Memory and focus suplements, plus added Berocca started to clear the fog and did actually improve my short term memory wihtin a couple of weeks.
Joint pain. The only thing I've found, apart from codeine (which appears to be harder than crack to get these days) is the Blackmores joint formula advanced. Expensive unless it's on sale though. It won't get rid of it but does give it a good knock.
The libido and sex is a harder one and probably deserves a seperate post in the private group. I will say my brain was the one being a lot of the problem. I have been able to make improvements, it's not what it was but definitely improved.
I found taking more notice of the small moments of good than looking at the big picture made a huge difference. Those little moment start to add up the more you seek them out.
All the best sweet. xoxoxoxoxo