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Afraser
5 years agoMember
I can hear myself - even though I didn’t stop working after diagnosis, I ended up asking the same questions. I knew I could work, I was working but did I really now need to amend my life, did I now need to ‘make allowances’? I saw a very good counsellor who smartly clarified that cancer wasn’t my issue - but being superwoman, calling the shots, working longer, harder, because I could and because I liked being so competent, might have become a barrier to living better. I didn’t quit my work but little by little I changed a few things - delegated a little more, didn’t feel I had to put my hand up for everything. I created time for things that were good for me (singing, gym, philosophy) without giving up work I enjoyed, I just gradually learned better balance and to prioritise. Sometimes it is possible to have it all - but you need to know exactly why you want changes for them to work. Best wishes.