Feel the need to withdraw from family
Hi All. I'm 4 months post active radiation treatment and on hormone therapy and Venlafaxine. When I was diagnosed my husband was in hospital with an undiagnosed illness. In fact, my husband is ...
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So sorry to see you join us here, @carolr, in our 'exclusive' club ....
Sadly, it is times like this that we sometimes learn who our 'friends' really are, both within the family and your friends - and some are found, sadly, to be lacking :( My husband has dementia (plus diagnosed last year with Stage 4 cancer) - and whilst I've been his carer since his first surgery many years ago (removal of most of his stomach) sadly, the dementia has meant there is little empathy for myself when diagnosed 4 years ago. Having no kids makes it more difficult, as we live in a regional town where we have no relatives.
As the girls have said .... being seen as 'independent' and 'coping' in the past - can lead to the belief that we don't need support (both physical and mental) now - which just isn't true.
Definitely, have a break away - contact Otis & see if any of their retreats are available (during covid, most would have been stopped, I believe.)
I am guessing that you are so used to doing all the chores (feeding the animals as well - how extraordinary that you could even do that on the day you had your lumpectomy!) that you are loath to 'leave it up to them' ..... but you really need to - to see just what they WILL or WILL NOT do in your absence. :(
Jump onto this link & you'll see lots of other areas on the blog - we even manage to have a good laugh now & then ....
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/23477/a-big-welcome-to-all-our-new-members#latest
Whack up any questions/observations that you have & we'll do our best to answer/understand them xx
take care xx
Sadly, it is times like this that we sometimes learn who our 'friends' really are, both within the family and your friends - and some are found, sadly, to be lacking :( My husband has dementia (plus diagnosed last year with Stage 4 cancer) - and whilst I've been his carer since his first surgery many years ago (removal of most of his stomach) sadly, the dementia has meant there is little empathy for myself when diagnosed 4 years ago. Having no kids makes it more difficult, as we live in a regional town where we have no relatives.
As the girls have said .... being seen as 'independent' and 'coping' in the past - can lead to the belief that we don't need support (both physical and mental) now - which just isn't true.
Definitely, have a break away - contact Otis & see if any of their retreats are available (during covid, most would have been stopped, I believe.)
I am guessing that you are so used to doing all the chores (feeding the animals as well - how extraordinary that you could even do that on the day you had your lumpectomy!) that you are loath to 'leave it up to them' ..... but you really need to - to see just what they WILL or WILL NOT do in your absence. :(
Jump onto this link & you'll see lots of other areas on the blog - we even manage to have a good laugh now & then ....
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/23477/a-big-welcome-to-all-our-new-members#latest
Whack up any questions/observations that you have & we'll do our best to answer/understand them xx
take care xx