Dont follow me Im lost too

I felt I had a lot of support from friends and work colleagues during treatment but mainly I got that feeling because they just treated me normally. I talked to my medical team about side effects and issues, I wasn’t expecting others to adopt that role, not least of all because it wasn’t their strength. Many people discover that they become the comforters of their friends and relatives! It sounds crazy but knowing someone who has cancer is a vivid reminder that something bad could happen to you too and often people can’t cope with the idea. Being treated as if I hadn’t changed, helped me. It doesn’t work for everyone. I came to grips with changes I wanted to make in my life, slowly, a full year after diagnosis. Having an ‘outsider’, not a friend, to help clarify my thinking and understand my motivations better (about life, but not specifically cancer) helped me make useful decisions post cancer.