Hi there @Kelly88 ....this Old Chook (59) had a bilateral mastectomy with node clearance on the left at the end of April. I did have a number of complications, but these were largely due to other medical conditions which I have. You mentioned specifically the pain, recovery and being able to hold your Bubbie afterwards for up to a month. Each of us is different, but I can only share my own personal experiences in those regards. I only had one dose of Endone, the night of the surgery, and truth be told, it was more to get the nurse off my back, than anything else. She was convinced that I was in severe pain, but was trying to be a hero. There was pain, yes, but really only when I moved around, and even then, I found it quite bearable. It was more the juggling act of the drains and so on, than pain, that was a nuisance. My recovery was easier than that for an abdominal hysterectomy when I was 26 years old. (Another story). My grandson was one year nine months old when I had my surgery. I certainly was able to hug and hold him straight away. I couldn't pick him up for a good while, but could have him next to me and on my lap without any problems.
You're stronger than you know
Very Best Wishes...Ally xoxo