SO sorry to see you joining our select little club Higgsy and I can only imagine how you are feeling, with the diagnosis of a recurrence xx I hope your surgery went well & you are recovering well, too xx
Your initial attitude ....got breast cancer, have treatment, get over it and move on so I didn't let it consume my life. ... was terrific. You've had the same treatment as me, with ILC .... (feel free to join the ILC private group here: https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/group/invasive-lobular-cancer
Any BC diagnosis mucks with your brain - so if you are feeling sad/angry/distressed, I'd suggest you have a listen to Charlotte Tottman's podcasts on dealing with a breast cancer diagnosis as she is a specialist BC Counsellor who was diagnosed herself and had a double mastectomy, choosing to remain flat. She is very easy to listen to. http://www.drcharlottetottman.com.au/my-podcast.html
Sadly, they have no idea as to who (or why) some go on to have recurrences or even Mets ... and it really does need ongoing investigating! Maybe some Pathologists should do a phd on it, to try & identify a pattern, using the original and most recent pathologies and treatment history ... of EVERY woman who's gone on to have a recurrence or Mets diagnosis.
I hope you have lots of family & friends around you for support and assistance xx. If you'd like to chat 'one on one' .... give our helpline a call on 1800 500 258 today (Mon-Fri, work hours) xx
Take care & all the best with your recovery & pathology results xx