@Primek I agree with you totally, I also agree with @Zoffiel that it serves no purpose to look at food, diet, exercise or anything else that may have caused this.
For me what I do know are the things that were happening in my life at both times were very very stressful, so what BC has done since then has helped me stop putting me last instead I'm first and nurturing so much more. ..Something I'd never done because circumstances had it that I had to be Superwoman for my kids, and my siblings and Dad...there was no room for me in all those years. So when I say be kind to you...for me its very different these days. I sort of imagine being wrapped up by my Mum like when I was little if she were here, but I do it for myself sometimes.
This has been the most pivotal in all of it, absolutely nothing else...have that wine, cake, chocolate whatever it is...enjoy!!!
xx M
