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Hazel_M
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12 years ago

Self conscious about wig

Hi, went to the cancer council wig library 2 days ago with my bestie and my partner. Found a nice wig that I and my 2 support people really liked. Was so excited, so much so that my partner said that was the happiest he'd seen me in ages. Decided to go out for lunch yesterday and wear it in public for first time. When I put it on, a thought jumped into my head. I started thinking 'everyone will know'. I just kept fiddling with it which wasn't helping at all. When we arrived at lunch I was sure everybody was looking at me, my partner assured me they weren't. Still kept fiddling, my partner said 'stop doing that or you will draw attention'. I was completely out of my comfort zone, more so than when i wear my scarf of turban. I just felt this compulsion to keep checking it. I was quite down when we arrived home and wondered how something that I think looked good one day didn't the next? I don't plan on wearing it too much at the moment because of the heat, but I'm thinking I may have to wear it when I return to work down the track, I just don't see how I will get the confidence to do that. Do you get used to it eventually? Then I started thinking that when my hair starts to grow back, is their an awkward time, an in between time, when you don't know whether to wear one or go au natural? Oops, forgot my 'one day at a time' mantra. Too far ahead of myself, the issue is not a priority. Just want some cofidence when I venture out of the house, hope everyone is faring well out there, 

Hazel xx

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    Deanne
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    12 years ago
    I never really felt totally comfortable in my wig despite all the reassurances of family and friends. I found some days I felt ok about wearing it and other days I felt more comfortable in my turban hats. I always felt better in the wig around people who did not know me and therefore were not aware that I was wearing a wig! There was a funny story to tell about the day I went out wearing my Ugg boots because I was so distracted fussing with my wig. And still no one seemed to notice! At least they might have been looking at my feet and not my wig. It is 4 months since my last chemo and I have been going coverless for about a month. My hair is still really short but it is simply too hot to cover up! I figure it wil be another 2 months before it gets to a length that I might actually like. Most of the time I figure people take no notice of what others look like, so I try to just forget about it and get on with things. Still not happy about posing for photos yet! Hope you get used to it and learn to feel more comfortable in it. As you say one step at a time and everything has a way of working out. Take care. Deanne xxx