Reconstruction completion date
12 days now until my tissue expanders are removed and my softees are put in. 14 months since my 1st surgery of bilateral mastectomy and tissue expanders inserted. During this time I have coped ...
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How nice is that?! Yes, the food bank was a godsend last time...we literally had about 5 weeks of amazing meals. Two of my girlfriends (from my Mother's Group of 19 years ago!!!) organised it. I did feel a bit awkward accepting the help, but honestly, the girls all seemed to want to do something and this was a concrete gesture of support and love.
A few months later, I booked a few days at Alyonah in Daylesford through the Otis Foundation to thank them and those who could come, did.
I'll do the same thing this time, but at a different property. I'll also host a dinner (might even do a bit of fundraising) to thank them all. They've been amazing.
A gesture so thoughtful as a meal is so moving - that someone actually spends time thinking about you, planning something delicious for you and your family.....it was a highlight.
Mind you, I had a few other (very close) girlfriends who I thought would be my rocks throughout this process, who did nothing. And in fact, one of them (I've been there for her when she was sick, distraught, lonely....) I have only seen once in 12 months! I wanted to meet with her to talk about it, to try and heal whatever the hell had gone wrong between us, but she kept on postponing the arrangements. So I've given up on her.
One of the best gifts cancer has given me has been to see through the BS....to know that I am worth it, and to focus on those people and situations that are good for me. I avoid the toxic - and this friend who I thought was one of my besties, is clearly too toxic for me.
A few months later, I booked a few days at Alyonah in Daylesford through the Otis Foundation to thank them and those who could come, did.
I'll do the same thing this time, but at a different property. I'll also host a dinner (might even do a bit of fundraising) to thank them all. They've been amazing.
A gesture so thoughtful as a meal is so moving - that someone actually spends time thinking about you, planning something delicious for you and your family.....it was a highlight.
Mind you, I had a few other (very close) girlfriends who I thought would be my rocks throughout this process, who did nothing. And in fact, one of them (I've been there for her when she was sick, distraught, lonely....) I have only seen once in 12 months! I wanted to meet with her to talk about it, to try and heal whatever the hell had gone wrong between us, but she kept on postponing the arrangements. So I've given up on her.
One of the best gifts cancer has given me has been to see through the BS....to know that I am worth it, and to focus on those people and situations that are good for me. I avoid the toxic - and this friend who I thought was one of my besties, is clearly too toxic for me.