Onc. who failed to inform me fully

Hi Aggie. I know how you feel. Exactly the same thing happened to me. My surgeon kept my pathology report from me until I insisted on seeing it 3 months post op and discovered that my margins were involved on the mastectomy specimen. I was furious and felt betrayed and also wondered whether I would be able to continue to see him. When I approached him about it I could tell that he GENUINELY thought that it was a small issue in the greater scheme of things and I subsequently felt that I had made quite a big deal of quite a small issue. I’m still angry 6 months later but have had lots of time to think about things and realise that he didn’t do it deliberately to hurt me, he had provided excellent care up until that point, doctors are human too and can also get tired/bored/ stressed and that a little forgiveness would probably be in my best interest in the long term. I don’t think my relationship with my surgeon will ever be quite the same again but as I see it, I have more to lose if I stop seeing him than he does. Good luck with your decision. It’s not easy.