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Hi Renata
It's such a shock to hear , it's cancer, that all you can do is cry! All the tests help the surgeon, and you, as the least, invasive the operation, the better. Plus, it's stage 2 as was mine, and I  had a mastectomy and feel fine after. It's only been 2 months for me  and our outcomes today are so much better.  Best wishes.  

thank you so much for your message, yes I have my support, my husband came with me today. At this stage I feel I need to process on my own and not reach out to support, is that normal?  apart from you guys, which have already made me feel better, I also feel like I cant move, I'm in the same clothes I wore to the doctor and in the same chair. I know I will be better, I'm just processing and crying on and off.

Hello @RenataW,  Welcome to the group none of us eve thought we'd have a need to join. 

As a counsellor you can sit back and think clearly for your client but when it is you being affected the emotions get in the way so don't feel that you are a failure.  As we all say, take things one day at a time and don't try to think or plan ahead as you may be looking down the wrong path.  Things become clearer and fall into place.

As @Blossom1961 said we have probably all had a melt-down at some stage.  I was doing great until the surgeon left and the nurse patted my knee, saying "you are taking this so well".  Ha Ha.

As long as you trust your medico and feel they are communicating with you then you are ahead.  You are getting the whole gambit of tests which some of us were not even offered so that is good.

Do you have family and friends who can be a support to you ?  Take someone with you to appointments as they are a second pair of ears - again, your emotions can get in the way and you are contemplating one comment when the specialist is onto the next.  You can also ask to record the appointment so you can listen later.

All the best.  Stay in touch and remember that we are here for you - no question is too small or too silly.

thank you for your message, I also feel like my big girl panties are over my head and have holes in them 

Hi @RenataW Sorry you had to join us here but you will find so much support and know you are not alone. Firstly, big deep breaths. You can do this. You are stronger than you think. Second, crying is okay. I doubt there are very many on here that didn't lose it when first diagnosed. It is very traumatic and I believe that crying gives us strength by letting it out so that we can move forward. 

It is fantastic your doctor is doing the scans to make sure. Some doctors neglect to do this and leaves the person wondering if it has spread. Doing the scans puts our minds in a much better place in the long run. It sounds like you have caught it early and the doctor agrees. Whilst waiting for the scans, keep yourself busy. Make some meals to freeze for when you really can't face cooking. Go out with friends and find someone you feel comfortable talking to. If you do not have anyone, find out who the McGrath Breast Care nurse is in your area as they will be able to reassure you. On top of that, you have us, and we are an awesome lot  :D.

Sending you massive hugs. Some of the others will get on here with more practical advice. I can always remember one lady saying to me, pull up your big girl panties and you can do this. I told her my panties were already over my head and I couldn't pull them up any higher. Cry, scream, laugh, do whatever it takes to let it out and feel good about doing so. Look up the post called Friday Funnies, some of the posts are a bit dark but at least some will cause you to smile again.