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Mollygirl
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8 years ago

My password finally worked! But I've been following you all...

hi Everyone, 

Firstly,  a big thank you to you all.  I've been reading lots of post which have helped me through the last 8 months. My chemo brain or something couldn't help me negotiate signing in. But finally, yay it worked and here I am. 

I was on a lovely months worth of leave in April when I got diagnosed with TNBC. I'm 47. My son was in year 12. And my husbands first wife died of cancer ( colon, several decades ago). I felt so guilty. What a whirlwind. PET CT and surgery ( lumpectomy and node biopsies) within the week. Then for chemo. Several suspicious lesions  chopped out prior to chemo starting ( I had a level 3 melanoma 2 years ago which I had surgery and grafting for) then started chemo. 
Ive had yearly screening for 11 years. I check my breasts ALL the time. It was only 10 months since my last mammogram and USS ( thank goodness I found it) 

I'm a nurse so for some reason I thought I'd be tougher than most. Im pretty fit and healthy so I thought I'd be tougher than most. I'm bloody minded so I thought I'd be tougher than most. Dear Lord, that chemo broke me ... ( oh yeah I realise it's not a competition, but hey,  thought I was going to fly through by being tough). 

Three, three weekly cycles of FEC ( oh, the dreaded epirubicin) then, three, three weekly cycles of Doxetaxel. All finished by the 21st September. I was so broken I could barely stand up for longer than two minutes. Thank god, for my plastic Bunnings chair in the shower. 

I have just had 3 weeks ago, bilateral mastectomies as I really didn't want to go down this road ever again. I am absolutely thrilled with the outcome. Looks so tidy and not nearly as bad as I thought. I don't intend to have reconstruction as I'm done. I mean done, no more surgery thank you very much. 

So now for some healing time and to get over the fatigue and dreaded menopausal symptoms. Hopefully back to work in March. 

The triple negative thing worries me sometimes but I've decided not to dwell on it as I have no control over it - if that makes sense. 

I hope no one will be offended by this: I get people to ask me how I am- then reply with "I'm feeling a bit flat" !!!! Gives me a laugh every time and I think helps them not to feel bad for me :)

Wishing you all a wonderful Christmas and lots of wellness my new BC friends.

Bec xxxxxx

14 Replies

  • Hi @Mollygirl, so good you're doing well. What a shitty long process it is. I finished treatment in November, and just started on Arimidex and palbociclib. It's sooo exhausting. 
    All the best.
  • @Zoffiel , you're so right. And hey, I feel braver now I'm not in the midst of chemo. Fingernails....I hear you. Mine all died and lifted off the nail bed and I could feel the water go underneath them in the shower
  • Tough is all well and good until you have a total meltdown because your last respectable looking fingernail cracks off. Complete deal breaker for me and I cried until I ran out of snot. I have no idea why, I've never had respectable looking nails in my life, but at the time it seemed symbolic of my whole existence.
    It's tough to be tough sometimes. M x
  • Glad you are doing well and I laughed at your flat comment. X