Letting go of being superwoman!

I disagree though that we can’t learn from it.  Also, by no means am I saying we should blame ourselves. Actually, we don’t need to blame anyone, but if we do then I’d blame society. We are forced into these situations by ‘standards’ we are supposed to meet and uphold. Too many women have pressures from all sides to be the ‘good wife’, especially in my culture. The man must be respected as the head of the house, and as the breadwinner, he deserves his relaxation time after working hard all day. The woman was home all day doing nothing apparently, so has to continue looking after the kids, keeping the house clean and making dinner etc. If she asks for a break, she’s painted as selfish and a bad wife/mother. So, here we are, modern women, fighting so hard against all this. Refusing to be this unappreciated slave, so ending up single with children, then working because we want to be independent, still needing to look after the kids though because the man certainly isn’t capable of doing so, and ending up being the breadwinner and the one raising the children. And where does that leave us? Exhausted, drained, miserable and depressed. It’s not a one-person job, but we do it because at the time there’s no way out. There’s other women who don’t have children, but have other family drama they find themselves a part of, and once again need to be the understanding one who needs to fix everything. Whatever the situation though, the woman is not to blame, because no one asks to be stuck in such a situation. It’s just where life takes us, usually because it’s the way this society functions, as I mentioned. Therefore, the point here is not to blame ourselves, as that doesn’t lead to anything constructive. It’s to analyse the past, see what wrong and why, and make conscious decisions and be proactive about changing the things we know led us to the misery. And I for one have made such changes. I am actively trying to not repeat history, and so far I’m feeling quite happy. I don’t know what will happen in future in terms of my health, but the most important thing is that in my present I feel a million times better than I did before. That in itself is a massive win for me.