Letting go of being superwoman!
I have been hesitating writing this for a while, but here goes! When I was first diagnosed with breast cancer, of course I was stunned by being delivered the news by the doctor at Breast Screen, ...
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Wow @FLClover,
I so relate to your story. I was the eldest child. My dad worked away as a salesman and I missed him so much. He did that in my early childhood.
When I was 4, my mum and 2 sisters and I had a very bad car accident. My mum and baby sister were injured so badly. My mu..lost the use of her right arm for a year. Ad a 4 yr old I did ironing and made lunch for my mum and sisters. Mum would tell me how to make sandwiches.
I guess my childhood set up that need to do everything, look after everyone, except me. It was just how it was and then the pattern was set for my life. Well until that burnout happened and I wasn't able to go on.
I left work in June of 2019 after using up my leave to take care of sick parents and a very sick son. I was diagnosed with bc on 30 April 2020.
I worked hard for the house, my son's schooling etc etc. Now all I care about is my health and happiness.
I always ate healthy but I cut my drinking down lots. I put my exercise and meditation first before anything else. I pace myself with what I do and rest when I need to. I still sometimes feel guilty not doubt things but I am getting better at letting that go.
If I could have written to my younger self I would have said to work less, ask for help and do plenty of self care. Peace of mind is my success these days not 'stuff' or senior positions.
My first career was as a nurse. I sat with many who died and I guarantee no one ever talked about the need to work more but everyone talks about wishing they had more time with those they love. Lucky I have woken up to myself. 🙏
I so relate to your story. I was the eldest child. My dad worked away as a salesman and I missed him so much. He did that in my early childhood.
When I was 4, my mum and 2 sisters and I had a very bad car accident. My mum and baby sister were injured so badly. My mu..lost the use of her right arm for a year. Ad a 4 yr old I did ironing and made lunch for my mum and sisters. Mum would tell me how to make sandwiches.
I guess my childhood set up that need to do everything, look after everyone, except me. It was just how it was and then the pattern was set for my life. Well until that burnout happened and I wasn't able to go on.
I left work in June of 2019 after using up my leave to take care of sick parents and a very sick son. I was diagnosed with bc on 30 April 2020.
I worked hard for the house, my son's schooling etc etc. Now all I care about is my health and happiness.
I always ate healthy but I cut my drinking down lots. I put my exercise and meditation first before anything else. I pace myself with what I do and rest when I need to. I still sometimes feel guilty not doubt things but I am getting better at letting that go.
If I could have written to my younger self I would have said to work less, ask for help and do plenty of self care. Peace of mind is my success these days not 'stuff' or senior positions.
My first career was as a nurse. I sat with many who died and I guarantee no one ever talked about the need to work more but everyone talks about wishing they had more time with those they love. Lucky I have woken up to myself. 🙏