Hometime
My op was on Thursday, and my surgeon had said about 3 days in hospital, so I was expecting to come home on Sat or Sunday. But on Friday nobody said anything about when that would be, just that they ...
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My partner is a good cook but not so great at cleaning. He is very slow and particular about the way he does things and just doesn't see some mess, which drove me crazy when I came home from my surgery (mastectomy, SNB and TRAM reconstruction). It also worried me, as caring for me was taking so much of his time and I didn’t want him to resent it, however much he reassured me it was OK. So rather than asking him to do everything, I worked out what I really needed him to do (reaching, lifting, carrying, driving) and what I could do myself (eg food prep sitting down rather than standing). I did the things that I could do and got him to focus on the ones I couldn’t. I ended up doing most of the kitchen tidying and the washing up because I found otherwise it wouldn’t get done as soon as I liked, but that was OK, as long as I did it in small bits, not standing up too long. At first he was worried that he was failing me in some way, but I explained that there was no point exhausting him on things that I didn’t need him to do, when I relied on him so much for other things, not least as my absolute rock of emotional support.
Hope you find a way through, and I’m glad to hear you are home and feeling ready for the next steps.
Viv xxx