Healthy Mind & Feeling Good But Why?

I remember thinking that the only time I had ever spent in a hospital was when I had my daughter, so how come I now have a therapist, oncologist, surgeon and a cardiologist???? Anger is perfectly understandable but it's not a long term solution (short term, go for it!!). Best not to anticipate - it may never happen. I got myself half convinced I had inflammatory breast cancer by Googling (dumb move!) and of course I didn't.  I did get lymphoedema, and no, it's not the end of the world - I do all the things I used to do, and managing it does not take up a lot of time. None of us think anything can happen to us, particularly if we are healthy and active, and then it does and it's a bummer. We are having unpleasant treatment when we feel PERFECTLY WELL!

I read something of Jane Caro's a long time ago- she met with a grief counsellor when her baby was seriously ill, and he said, very gently "Terrible things can happen, they can happen to anyone. Danger is a reality, safety is an illusion". As Jane said, as she gave up trying to control what happened and just accepted the reality of it, her anxiety fell away. It's a brutal lesson. But It's not a bad one. If we could seriously NOT accept the reality, that's what we might all be doing. Ultimately, we just have to. And then it honestly does get better. Strength and hope and determination kicks in, and doesn't leave too much room for anger. You sound a pretty determined person to me, so use your energy to get back to PERFECTLY WELL, not angry.  Very best wishes.