@SylviaM I would expect a husband would sacrifice a trip to stay and support, because as you say cancer is cancer. I have no qualms now about telling people I still have side effects from what cancer and treatment has done to my body if they ask something of me that I really can't or am not interested in doing. Cancer is big, and our emotions get a good shake up, so please share here even if you think you have less of a burden to carry compared to others, we all get it! Our struggles are real!
Life is short, and so we need to not have guilt over things where we have done no wrong. If you continue to have guilty feelings, could be good to unpack that with a counsellor. I went out of my way to make my breast cancer
diagnosis easier on friends and family, and took up invitations to please them, never again! Now I put myself first! A cancer diagnosis for me has had a huge impact on my life and how I now view friendships. Two cancer diagnoses for me in the space of eight months was more than my fair share. Take care of YOU. All the best. xx