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JacquiS
Member
6 hours ago

Feeling emotional

Hi, when I was first diagnosed a couple of months ago I went straight into survival mode, very focused on my clients (I work in mental health and disability), my business, and getting the treatment I needed. For quite a while it didn’t feel real, even with the appointments and scans and surgery. About two weeks post surgery it hit me and I have been very emotional ever since. With my clinical background I understand it, but I an nevertheless surprised by it. I know everything says it can be an emotional roller coaster, but I never expected the strength of it. I think I expected that once I had surgery and they confirmed it hadn’t spread that I would feel relieved, not still so tired and upset.

Is anyone else comfortable sharing what their emotional journey is/has been? 

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  • arpie's avatar
    arpie
    Member
    4 hours ago

    Getting a BC diagnosis is a really BIG emotional roller coaster, no matter how 'prepared' we think we are.  JacquiS​ xx.  And everyone reacts differently .... and all reactions are 100% normal - and emotional distress is right up there at the top. xx

    Maybe, give the BCNA Helpline a call tomorrow (as they are off duty on the weekends) ... Mon-Fri, 9-5 for a confidential chat with the Mods xx   
    1800 500 258

    And you might like to listen to Charlotte Tottman's podcasts here:
    https://soundcloud.com/bcna

    She is a BC Psychologist who was diagnosed herself 5+ years ago.  She 'thought she knew' all about it .... but in reality - when it is YOU who is diagnosed, no amount of 'expectation' can equate to what you actually go thru yourself xx

    I 'thought' I knew enough about cancer treatment after nursing my husband thru really nasty surgery & chemo 8 years previously ..... but when I was diagnosed myself with BC - it hit me like a sledge hammer to the head!  In reality, I knew NOTHING!

    Be kind to yourself - give yourself time to heal & reconnect with your 'new self' ... it takes time to come good again xx

    Take care & I wish you all the best in your recovery xx

  • Ann58's avatar
    Ann58
    Member
    5 hours ago

    HiJacquiS​ 

    I’m still to have my surgery. I was diagnosed about 4 weeks ago, surgery is now set for 26th August, after it was postponed for 2 weeks

    Most times I’m an emotional mess with varying degrees of anxiety thrown into the mix. I try to keep busy etc but I am an overthinker 😩

    I totally understand your emotional roller coaster & I’m sorry you are going through it. 
    I don’t have an answer 💝 but others further along the path will help I’m sure.

    its good that we have this forum for support.