False cheerfulness cheeses me off!

Hi Deanne

Wow after reading your blog I think you do need to sit down with your loved ones and tell them how you are feeling.  They should understand realy and not get upset by what you tell them.

I think that they are behaving that way to maybe cheer you up,   but you want them to be normal, im on day 11 after my mastectomy. My husband is just being himself, yes he looks after me and has taken time off work to be here for me, but he is also just being  himself and that is what I need. Just sit down with them and say " look I love you but all I want is for you to treat me normaly and be normal yourself. To much "over the top" realy isnt helping and I need you to be there for me just as you have always done, no different." I know you are going through hell and just want to be treated like before so do I, Ive told my friends that I dont want them to feel sorry for me, yes I do appreciate it when they help me out and ring me or text me to see how I am, but for them to be "normal" is great.

If you are feeling down then thats fine, go with what your body is telling you and tell that to your family too, 

I hope this doesnt sound to confusing Im not good at putting words down lol..

Take care ye chin up and dont worry about telling them how you feel Im sure they will understand, 

Alf

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