A very happy 2017 to you Kath, and many thanks for all those useful and helpful posts and good research. What a story. It must have been so hard facing a cancer diagnosis at the same time as losing someone you care about from the same insidious malaise.
I never found a lump, just suddenly had a funny sore breast - 9 days from funny feeling to mastectomy - it was hard to keep up, but I have read so many stories here about agonising waits that I realise how grateful I am for that speed. When I started, like everyone, a year was an eternity. But then it's done. Next October, if all goes well, I will hit my 5 year mark. It seems like no time and an eternity simultaneously. There are still no guarantees, I know that. As I have said before in a post, one of the unlooked for benefits is coming to terms with the real impact of being mortal. It's not morbid, it's liberating and I still want to live for ever! I won't and that's fine. I have learned to think about how I invest my time- not always well or wisely, but not carelessly and that's a start. If I had not survived, I would have never seen my grandson, held my mother's hand when she died, got to Iceland or worked on a job I really enjoy. Every moment for the last four years feels like the best kind of end of year bonus.
Here's to the best kind of new year for all of us - hope, recovery, optimism and joy.
Alison