Recently diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer and feeling a little nervous.

Belleindy
Belleindy Member Posts: 13
edited February 2021 in Newly diagnosed
I found a lump in my breast at the beginning of Feb and went to the Dr thinking it was probably just a cyst but unfortunately it turned out to be cancer. I've spoken to the Specialist had a PET Scan and a breast tissue mark clip insertion as I'll be having chemo first and am seeing the oncologist on Monday but I'm just a bit scared I guess and feeling a bit overwhelmed by the whole thing and just really wanted to connect with others that have been through or are going through the same thing as I am. 

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  • FLClover
    FLClover Member Posts: 1,513
    Hello @Belleindy
    Very sorry to hear of your diagnosis. It’s a terrifying time for sure. This is a good place to come for support and advice as we’ve all gone through different types of the big c, and know what you’re going through. These feelings of fear and anxiety are normal. You need to let them process. Just make sure you take it a step at a time, as it does get pretty overwhelming. Try to focus on what’s happening in the moment, and go easy on yourself. 
    Good luck with chemo 🍀♥️
  • Belleindy
    Belleindy Member Posts: 13
    I have been trying to take it one day at a time but I was very overwhelmed yesterday. I am feeling better today though. 
  • FLClover
    FLClover Member Posts: 1,513
    Yes, it does happen. Especially at the beginning, it’s much more common to be overwhelmed by everything, understandably so. I’m glad you’re feeling better today 😊. It might happen again, so just reach out whenever it gets too much ♥️
  • Blossom1961
    Blossom1961 Member Posts: 2,362
    @Belleindy The initial BC diagnosis is a doozy. Our whole being goes into shock. I worked in robot mode for quite a while. The first time I completely lost it was when I found out the Onco had lied to me. I was with the surgeon at the time and he copped the lot. I don't regret it though as he said some rather unkind things along the lines of 'what do I expect as a public patient'. Lose it when you need to and remember we are always here for you to rant to your hearts content. Going for a drive and screaming seems to help. Personally, I just went out into the middle of the street and screamed. No one  even checked on me, makes me wonder if they had come to expect something nutty from my house. Hang in there. I was at a loss right up until my first chemo session. Half an hour later, I pulled up my big girl panties and got on with it. I still had my moments and this forum was a huge help for me.
  • FLClover
    FLClover Member Posts: 1,513
    edited February 2021
    Omg @Blossom1961!! I’m not familiar with this story!!! Your onc lied to you??? And they said that about being a public patient?? 😲😲😳😡😡
  • Belleindy
    Belleindy Member Posts: 13
    @blossum1961 I often get the urge to go scream in my Court Yard, I have yet to do it though. Also saying "What do I expect as a public patient" is BS I hope you reported that person. 
  • Blossom1961
    Blossom1961 Member Posts: 2,362
    @Belleindy I did not report him. He is the best surgeon and I didn't want to lose him, just kick him which I refrained from doing. I did however yell quite loudly.
    @FLClover Yep! I was pretty ropeable at the time with both of them.
  • FLClover
    FLClover Member Posts: 1,513
    @Blossom1961 far out!! I would’ve been too!! Unbelievable!! 😠. He’s lucky he’s a good surgeon. They should both learn some manners too 🤨. 
    @Belleindy scream darl, scream. Go somewhere private and just let it all out. You’ll kick yourself for not doing it sooner. And while you’re at it, take a pillow to punch as well. I‘m being serious 👌🏻♥️
  • Belleindy
    Belleindy Member Posts: 13
    I have PTSD so I have a psychologist and I do psycho drama and one of the things he encourages me to do is punch cushions, kick them against the wall all that sort of stuff but I'm honestly no good at it. I do get angry and carry on like a pork chop at times though. I'm glad he's a good surgeon and I don't blame you for yelling loudly. 
  • FLClover
    FLClover Member Posts: 1,513
    That’s good @Belleindy, let the frustration out however you can atm (of course making sure no one gets hurt 😆)
  • Locksley
    Locksley Member Posts: 911
    Sorry to see you here @Belleindy.  There are lots of ladies here with fabulous advice.   Go easy on yourself. 
  • Belleindy
    Belleindy Member Posts: 13
    Thank you. I am feeling a little better about it all now.