On the up again
Hi Ladies, thank you for your good advice on my 'worn out' blog. I will try online shopping, never even thought of it (bit of a dinosaur). My doctor reminded me to take a mild sleeping tablet because lack of sleep did make things worse. I have now had 2 good night's sleep. I think I was just trying to be super woman and it wasn't working. My partner is still improving daily and I confessed to my doctor that I'm worried every minute of the day that he's going to have a heart attack. He explained that with his illness (cardio myopathy), it's not like that, he will get warning signs and needs to heed them. I was also not coping with getting all the housework done, but I will prioritise and the rest can wait. I reached out to some friends and family and two of these have already bought some meals around for us. I never wanted to bother people too much, but they said they wouldn't have offered if they didn't mean it. So, as you can see, all of your advice was right on the money, I can't thank you enough. As for mirrors, well, I was never a beauty queen at the start of this journey, my partner has told me I am still beautiful to him. and that's all that matters. I do realise how fortunate I am, I just got bogged down with the weight of things. What we are going through is a speed bump in the big scheme of things, and we will work on getting better together. Once again, thank you, it's so good to have people who know what it's like, your support is appreciated, big hugs to everyone,
Hazel xx
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Well done Hazel.
Big hugs to you.
I think you are pretty amazing.
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Big hugs back to you, Hazel. You are doing well with sorting things out. Most of us battle to get through chemo without the added stress of a partner with a serious illness as well and you still find time to help people on here! As Paula says you are amazing! No wonder you have people wanting to help. Take care. Deanne xxxooo0
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Good to hear that things are better for you Hazel! Online shopping is great. Don't forget to buy yourself some special treats on line. I love going on ebay and buyng 'stuff'! It's wonderful when you get these lovely 'presents' in the mail that cheer you up!
All the best
Tanya xo
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You are amazing! You are managing your situation so well.One day in the future you'll look back and wonder how you did it. Once,when my elderly mum couldn't leave her unit for a week(lifts were out)she ordered Lite and Easy meals and loved it. We are all guilty of trying to be superwoman at some stage or other so you are not alone there.I'm glad to hear your partner is improving and sounds like you have good friends and family to help you.Mmmmm,the mirror thing -I'd look at myself(bald and scarred) and think it was Frankenstein's bride!Thank God for partners and husbands who think we are beautiful. Big hugs, Tonya xx
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You are amazing! You are managing your situation so well.One day in the future you'll look back and wonder how you did it. Once,when my elderly mum couldn't leave her unit for a week(lifts were out)she ordered Lite and Easy meals and loved it. We are all guilty of trying to be superwoman at some stage or other so you are not alone there.I'm glad to hear your partner is improving and sounds like you have good friends and family to help you.Mmmmm,the mirror thing -I'd look at myself(bald and scarred) and think it was Frankenstein's bride!Thank God for partners and husbands who think we are beautiful. Big hugs, Tonya xx
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You are amazing! You are managing your situation so well.One day in the future you'll look back and wonder how you did it. Once,when my elderly mum couldn't leave her unit for a week(lifts were out)she ordered Lite and Easy meals and loved it. We are all guilty of trying to be superwoman at some stage or other so you are not alone there.I'm glad to hear your partner is improving and sounds like you have good friends and family to help you.Mmmmm,the mirror thing -I'd look at myself(bald and scarred) and think it was Frankenstein's bride!Thank God for partners and husbands who think we are beautiful. Big hugs, Tonya xx
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So good to hear your on the up hazel, I hope you both enjoy improvement in your health dont stress about the housework it will be there tommorow and tommorow and next week! and Tonya your so right my hubby says your looking better and better everyday to me. God love them.0
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So good to hear your on the up hazel, I hope you both enjoy improvement in your health dont stress about the housework it will be there tommorow and tommorow and next week! and Tonya your so right my hubby says your looking better and better everyday to me. God love them.0
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I'm so glad you are feeling more up and glad to hear your partner is also improving. Dark clouds clear and the sun shines again.
Yes I didn't like mirrors either, still don't really but coming to turns with my post chemo look now. When I was bald, I thought of myself as Uncle Fester from the Adams Family. I even had the dark smudges around my eyes. Called myself 'Aunty Fester'. We have to keep our sense of humour and keep smiling when we can even though it's sometimes hard. Keep looking for the silver lining like having your partner home.
I hope you have many more up days Hazel.
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I'm so glad you are feeling more up and glad to hear your partner is also improving. Dark clouds clear and the sun shines again.
Yes I didn't like mirrors either, still don't really but coming to turns with my post chemo look now. When I was bald, I thought of myself as Uncle Fester from the Adams Family. I even had the dark smudges around my eyes. Called myself 'Aunty Fester'. We have to keep our sense of humour and keep smiling when we can even though it's sometimes hard. Keep looking for the silver lining like having your partner home.
I hope you have many more up days Hazel.
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I missed your last post and just reading through felt so bad for you, I am pleased that you are feeling a little better.
So many ladies have given you wonderful advice, as usual the advice is spot on.
I tried the online shopping when I was going through treatment and yes it took me ages but it was easier than trying to write notes for Michael to to do and he would always come home with out stuff even if it was on a list. I also did alot of christmas shopping and birthday shopping online, it made me feel involved and I loved it took my mind off others things when I was stalking a bid item LOL.
I have a catalogue of photos of my treatment time and there is one in particular that sends shivers through me, my skin is grey my eyes sunken big black rings under them and my lips are the same colour as my skin, all with a bald head I looked like Uncle Fester. That was through my worst, then I see the ones after when I slowly came back to me, so these days I view them as my recovery story.
Of course, I don't look like me anymore I look different now, no long flowing locks, I've out on weight become puffy I think and something in my eyes is different too but its a work in progress I think. As I said somewhere else, true beauty shines through your partner is right.
You take the time to care for each other, the rest can wait what is important is being in the now together.
Sending you big big hugs.
Donna
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I missed your last post and just reading through felt so bad for you, I am pleased that you are feeling a little better.
So many ladies have given you wonderful advice, as usual the advice is spot on.
I tried the online shopping when I was going through treatment and yes it took me ages but it was easier than trying to write notes for Michael to to do and he would always come home with out stuff even if it was on a list. I also did alot of christmas shopping and birthday shopping online, it made me feel involved and I loved it took my mind off others things when I was stalking a bid item LOL.
I have a catalogue of photos of my treatment time and there is one in particular that sends shivers through me, my skin is grey my eyes sunken big black rings under them and my lips are the same colour as my skin, all with a bald head I looked like Uncle Fester. That was through my worst, then I see the ones after when I slowly came back to me, so these days I view them as my recovery story.
Of course, I don't look like me anymore I look different now, no long flowing locks, I've out on weight become puffy I think and something in my eyes is different too but its a work in progress I think. As I said somewhere else, true beauty shines through your partner is right.
You take the time to care for each other, the rest can wait what is important is being in the now together.
Sending you big big hugs.
Donna
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I missed your last post and just reading through felt so bad for you, I am pleased that you are feeling a little better.
So many ladies have given you wonderful advice, as usual the advice is spot on.
I tried the online shopping when I was going through treatment and yes it took me ages but it was easier than trying to write notes for Michael to to do and he would always come home with out stuff even if it was on a list. I also did alot of christmas shopping and birthday shopping online, it made me feel involved and I loved it took my mind off others things when I was stalking a bid item LOL.
I have a catalogue of photos of my treatment time and there is one in particular that sends shivers through me, my skin is grey my eyes sunken big black rings under them and my lips are the same colour as my skin, all with a bald head I looked like Uncle Fester. That was through my worst, then I see the ones after when I slowly came back to me, so these days I view them as my recovery story.
Of course, I don't look like me anymore I look different now, no long flowing locks, I've out on weight become puffy I think and something in my eyes is different too but its a work in progress I think. As I said somewhere else, true beauty shines through your partner is right.
You take the time to care for each other, the rest can wait what is important is being in the now together.
Sending you big big hugs.
Donna
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Hi Hazel.
It's not vanity I don't think. It has more to do with chemo taking away our identity. You all of a sudden become a 'sick' person. Losing your hair I think is losing the frame of who you are.
The surgery I had before chemo was scary but it was not wholly connected to me. It was still me looking back from the mirror. Chemo is different. The whole washed out, bawled look every time I caught a glimpse of myself was like holding a sign up saying I HAVE CANCER! The loss of my hair took away my sense of self and I think that's what we all grieve for. My hair is growing back differently but I am building a new frame and getting familiar with it.
Time will restore us Hazel.
Janey xxx0
